Stepping away from the psalms this morning to write about something that I loved in a book I am reading. It's called "What Every Woman Wants in a Man" by Diana Hagee. And please forgive the title. It's not a great title, but the book is really good, I promise!
The topic I want to briefly touch on is leadership in the home. Helping your husband become an effective godly leader. This is so important and these are great scriptures so I just wanted to share them with you.
1. Respect him. At home and in public.
1 Timothy 3:11 - "Even so must their wives be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things."
2. Acknowledge his authority. Don't try to override his authority with your children.
2 Samuel 15:4 - "Absalom said moreover, Oh
that I were made judge in the land, that every man which hath any suit
or cause might come unto me, and I would do him justice!"
The background behind this is Absalom's family life. His father is David the king and his mother was Maacah (2 Samuel 3:3). One problem here was that Maacah was the daughter of a heathen king, yet David married her anyway. There was division in them from the beginning due to their religious beliefs. Issues between parents can create hostility and pride in the children. Pride is a sin of such downfall it is probably greater than many others. Pride can lead to so many things. If you read the stories of pride in the Bible, or think of things you've done in your own life due to pride, you can see how easily it overtakes you. Let that pride slip. Acknowledge that your husband is in charge of the household and respect that. Believe me, I know this is easier said than done. But it does create more harmony.
3. Respond to his leadership. Don't deceive him. If your husband and you decide something together and it's something you didn't necessarily want, don't go behind his back and deceive him to get your way.
Hebrews 4:12 - "For the word of God is
quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even
to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and
marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart."
You can deceive your husband for a while but you can't deceive God for a second.
4. Praise him.
Ephesians 5:33 - "Nevertheless let every one
of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see
that she reverence her husband."
5. Be unified with him in purpose and in will. Come together for your goals and requests in prayer.
Amos 3:3 - "Can two walk together, except they be agreed?"
6. Be his helpmate. Don't compete with your husband.
Genesis 2:18 - "And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him."
7. Listen to him. Don't be a mouth when you should be an ear and a heart. (Ouch - this one hits me hard!)
1 Kings 3:9 - "Give therefore thy servant an understanding heart to judge thy people, that I may discern between good and bad."
8. Pray with him and for him. Cover him in prayer daily, especially for discernment and wisdom.
Ephesians 6:18 - "Praying always with all
prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all
perseverance and supplication for all saints."
9. Bless him.
Numbers 6:24-27 - "The Lord bless thee, and keep thee: The Lord make his face shine upon thee, and be gracious unto thee: The Lord lift up his countenance upon thee, and give thee peace. And they shall put my name upon the children of Israel, and I will bless them."
10. Be thankful for him. Thank God for your husband every day and pray for the traits that God wants in him.
1 Corinthians 1:4-8 - " I thank my God always on your behalf, for the grace of God which is given you by Jesus Christ; That in every thing ye are enriched by him, in all utterance, and in all knowledge; Even as the testimony of Christ was confirmed in you: So that ye come behind in no gift; waiting for the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ: Who shall also confirm you unto the end, that ye may be blameless in the day of our Lord Jesus Christ."